Anger is a natural emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. It is a healthy emotion when it is expressed appropriately. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. It is a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration, we may become angry and usually, this is a healthy response.
There are three types of anger – Black anger, Red anger, and White anger.
Black anger – The anger arises out of frustration or to gain power over a situation or sometimes over a person. This type of anger often occurs when something does not turn out the way the person wanted.
Red anger – People who use this type of anger often punish themselves for what they or someone else has done to them. The person, who uses this kind of anger often starves, cuts oneself or even overeats to punish themselves.
White anger – A person who expresses their anger for a reason is said to have white anger.
Anger may arise due to suppressed or unexpressed anger towards someone especially during childhood or denied love or a cry to receive love or more love.
Any uncontrollable anger arises out of the pollution of mind due to the accumulation of toxic thoughts.
Anger needs to be managed in the right way to lead a peaceful life. Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that we are becoming angry and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. It helps us to identify what triggers our emotions and how to respond to things so that things work in our favour, instead of against us.
THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH ANGER IS NOT TO PERCEIVE IT.
For example, when Sree Buddha started preaching his ideals, a lot of people from many communities quit their religion and started following Buddhism. This caused confusion and aggression in the minds of other religious leaders especially those of the Brahmin community. The chief of the Brahmin community at that time was Bharadwaja. He came to visit Buddha in order to prove that Buddhism is false and it is a pseudoreligion. He aggressively talked to the Buddha by mocking him as well as his ideals. Then Buddha told him to imagine that the former has visited the latter’s house and refused to accept the gifts that the latter offered. Then Buddha asked him that with whom the gifts would be with. Then Bharadwaja told mockingly that it would be with him. Then Buddha told that he did not perceive what all the latter showered in front of the former. Bharadwaja became enlightened momentarily and came under the guidance of Buddha. Later, he became one of the greatest preachers of Buddhism.
Likewise, it is easy to get rid of anger or manage it and respond in a polite manner and effectively deal things to lead a peaceful life.
Reduce anger. Be happy. Keep smiling.